I love Flylady

Worked hard on my office today. It's looking good. You can at least see the floor now. Instead of my own blog tonight, I decided to use an email from flylady. I just love her!!!

Dear Friends,Love is a word that is very deceptive maybe even illusive if we lookat it as a noun. It is not something that we can buy and hold in ourhands, it is a word that is filled with action. Love is a verb. Thisword is not just a feeling it is a doing. For years all I ever wantedwas to feel loved. That did not happen because I was looking for lovein all the wrong places; as the song says. I was not going to findthis love coming at me and surrounding me as a fog. I was not going tofeel this love from other people. I was searching so hard for thislove that I never dreamed that it was hiding right inside of me. Thereason we have a hard time finding this love is that the clutter wehave in our heads is standing in the way. When we can address thismost personal of our Body Clutter we will begin finding what we arelooking for.Men and women equate love much differently. For a man to show love heoften reveals it in actions; checking our tires, changing the oil, heis doing something. He may not be good at sentimental cards andflowers which is how we women equate love. This is why we need to lookat the various ways that love is done. How do you love your children?You feed them, dress them, bathe them, and do things for them. We dothe same thing for the critters in our lives. We scratch their earsand rub their bellies. Robert explained this to me this morning. Lastyear our hound dog Lucy died and we got another sweet hound dog.He said that he could sit in his chair and think about how much heloves this new dog or he could get up and go over and pet her. Then hewould be loving on her and she would feel his love for her. It wouldnot be a passive experience just for him but a shared event for bothof them.Then he turned this around. He said when we are loving ourselves weare the giver and the recipient at the same time. That is when heheaded out the door to play in the woods. This is one thing that heloves to do. When you are doing things that you love; you are lovingyourself. With our FLYing way of life we only surround ourselves withthings we love. We turn chores into blessings and release the stressfrom our lives by using routines to put us on autopilot. These are allforms of love but in our female definition of love this is just stuffwe have to do.We have to find ways to show ourselves love the way we understand itand will recognize it as love. But since we are doing it for ourselveswe just don't accept it in the same way we would if it came fromsomeone else. This is why we have a Pampering habit. These are littlethings that we can do each day to pamper ourselves. They can beanything that you can think of to do something nice for you. You cansnuggle with a cup of warmth or curl up with a favorite book ormagazine. Settle into a tub of bubbles or put on some of your favoritemusic. Pick up a flower at the grocery store so that every time youlook at it you will smile. Light candles in your home or put crystalsin the window so that rainbows dance across your room. These alwaysmake me smile.I was taught many years ago by Rita Davenport to fake it till you makeit. I didn't really know what that meant till recently; I just didlike she said. Fake it till you make it, is nothing but practicingtill a habit becomes automatic. Imagine that, practicing lovingourselves with little habits that tell us we are loved by the personwho does those little things that make us feel the love we so deserve.The martyr goes away and you are surrounded by the loving feeling thatyou have been searching for.So practice loving yourself first by simple actions and eventually youwill not do things that you don't love and you will not have items inyour home that do not put a smile on your face. This act of love is ascontagious as your shining sink. You are just shining your heart.